Monday, November 30, 2009

The Good Luck Cork


So what is a good luck cork you say?  My knowledge extends as far as what I was told by my friends, based on what they were told by a friend in Italy.
Based on a little bit of a research that I have since conducted, it is meant to signify good luck.  Traditionally, it involves a silver coin wedged in a Champagne cork.  

This is what I found via two posts on Yahoo! Answers (http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080305120632AAldhNE):

"dont know where the traditions from but i know my gran did this for each of my children when they were born and ive put them in their keepske boxes [...]"
and
"When I catered for weddings I always put a 50p coin in the 1st Champagne bottle and presented it to the bride, when I got married in 1967 my grandmother put a half crown coin in my toast bottle cork - for luck - we have just celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary."


Also, the top-most post links to this page on BBC where there's a whole thing on Corks http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/A735789 Here is what it says:

Corks
This doesn't have to be a champagne cork but it does need to be from a bottle. When a bottle is shared and the occasion is a happy one, take the cork from the bottle, making a wish that the pleasure you feel at this happy event is repeated, placing a coin in a slit on the top of the cork as you do so. Sleep with the cork under the pillow and then place it in your pocket for the next day. Rub the cork any day thereafter (it's advisable not to rub the cork too vigorously as this may elicit looks of disgust from passers-by) whenever you wish to hear from the people that shared the bottle with you. Do not wish for love, but rather, continuing happiness; corks symbolise buoyancy, not love.


I have not done the whole sleeping with it under my pillow or rubbing it yet... hope it's not too late!
In the end, I think it's a nifty tradition that is cool and something that I am thankful to my friends for sharing.  I am sure that it's also a ritual that I will be adapting as well.  Sister, for your housewarming, the cork is on me!

The pictures below are of the corks that I received from my friends Melissa & Mike (the one with the Euro), as well as the one from Fred's mom (the one with the NYC Subway token- now that's old school).







Enjoy traditions, embrace them, they make ordinary moments extra-ordinary!

We're engaged, now what?

Soon after we got engaged I think Fred and I realized that we really didn't know what to do next. All this anticipation leading up to this one moment, and then what? Right after he proposed to me, and after I was done staring in awe, we looked around the office and realized we didn't know what to do next,  so we went to get lunch.  Well, he took me to pick up lunch, gave me a kiss and then sent me back to work- he had to go back to the office. Back at work I barely touched my sandwich; I was still in the moment.  Later that day after he was done with work we finally left to celebrate our engagement over a nice Mexican dinner.  And that was the extent of our celebration that day.

Later that week we had a few smaller scale private celebrations over a BBQ with friends that weekend, and a smaller family gathering at his brother's apt in Queens.  We did open a few bottles of Champagne, and our friends Melissa and Mike actually shared with us a good-luck tradition that they picked up while vacationing  in Italy in April, where they became engaged!  This is the story of the cork.

Read on...

Sunday, November 29, 2009

The Ring!

Fred and I have been living together for almost four years now, and getting engaged was never out of the question, it was simply a matter of time.  When the time came (and I don't know how it happens, it's just some sort of time bomb that goes off) to get serious about it, he started doing his research.  Fred is very much the practical guy, never rushing into anything, never an impulse buy, everything is thoroughly calculated- an engagement ring wouldn't be the exception.

He started doing research and even began looking at lab diamonds; a guaranteed way the diamond would be bloodless.  But, it turned out that the lab diamonds he was finding only went as high as a .5 carat size.  Now, before you pass judgment you have to realize something- I didn't want something that stopped traffic, but not having really been a huge fan of jewelry (costume the only exception) I wanted something that I would enjoy wearing for potentially the rest of my life, and so I did have an idea of what I wanted.  The ideal ring for me would  be around 1carat because I thought it was a nice round number and it's probably the most common diamond size.  Knowing this he went back to the drawing board after finding that the lab diamonds were no longer an option.  And to think that lab diamonds are only a fraction of the cost!

After weeks of research, the man finally realized that it was time for us to go look at the real things.  He warned me: "now, don't get any ideas... we're only going to look at rings so that I can get a sense of what you like, it doesn't mean I'm going to buy anything".  How charming of him!  And so, we went to check out this store in Park Slope, Brooklyn called The Clay Pot that caught our eye after various internet searches.  And there, in a matter of minutes I had found the ring I wanted to own and to wear.  It was simple, but full of intricacies upon close inspection.  And just like that the quest was finally over.  I knew what I wanted, and he knew that once I knew, there was nothing else to it but to just make it happen.  And that, he did!

Here's the pic:



Ring is from the Richard Landi collection: http://richardlandi.com/html_pages/1962.html

And here's the ring on my finger!  I think it's dainty and has plenty of vintage charm. Sigh! 

The Proposal - What did people have to say?

Once the message was out, we got lots of congrats and good wishes from close friends, family, and co-workers.  But we also got some negatives from people viewing the posts- just like everything else, you can't please everyone!  Below are some of these posts from SheKnows.com:


By Amina Oct 3, 2009
this is so sweet.please say yes.

By dontsettle Sep 12, 2009
Dalila, For the love of mercy, you must say no. This guy is clearly out of his mind. No man thinks hair has personality. When the fit wears off, he's going to be one terrible guy to be around, and if you haven't already lost all respect for someone who would humiliate himself so pitifully in public, you soon will. You can do better.

By Vix Sep 8, 2009
Now thats something new folks! Way to go dude...god bless you both. #SayYesD !!!!

By Tanya Sep 8, 2009
way to go D..u are the luckiest woman in the world..god bless:-)

By Alex Sep 1, 2009
Hi! I am from India and read your love story which is very touching. Dalia I can make sure that your boyfriend loves you very much as he cares you a lot for sake of your smile. I can understand his feelings as I am also in love. He is the perfect match and soul mate for you. A woman wants her lifepartner who care her passionately and make her feel safe. He is the rite person "***SAY YESS**"


By Annie Aug 31, 2009
I remember you guys from school I think we took marketing together. I think this is great best of luck on your future together! Xoxo

By Al And Peggy Bundy Aug 31, 2009
Hey Fred me and the family got a couple things for ya one a fat woman came in to the shoe store today you already know that one Two whoa! Bundy! Three I hope you enjoy the married life wait til you have a kelly a bud and maybe even a seven oh god plese kill me! love the Bundys

 Even the Huff Post was wondering whether this was for real or not!  Sadly (not really), most people thought it was a marketing ploy! 


And this folks, is why you should leave work at work.  In our case, since we both work in the industry we knew what the real deal was, as well as the rest of our peers. Overall, we both enjoyed reading the posts - it was as though we were B list celebrities for a day!




The Proposal - August 31st, 2009

Dalila, will you marry me?


The proposal
Fred Ehrhart

I love my girlfriend very much. I try to prove this to her whenever I can, but I knew for my proposal I would have to top anything I have done in the past. I knew that I would need some help. So I find myself typing this list, for all SheKnows readers to see, of the top 10 reasons why I not only love Dalila, but why her accepting this proposal is the right thing to do. Hopefully with your help I can convince her to say yes, but first I need to convince you to take the effort to help me and hopefully this list will prove to you that Dalila is the one for me.

Persistence -- When we first met in college, the thing that separated Dalila from all the rest of the girls I had met was her persistence. There were a lot of girls in that school, and I didn’t want to be held down to one, so I turned down her initial advances at me. But she kept coming. Even after multiple rejections from me, she knew that I was what she wanted and she did not stop until she had me. Once I saw the determination and the resolve she had to get me, I realized that she was worth the time, and have never regretted it since. Since she persisted in getting me, I see it only fit that I try to make her accept my proposal in every way I possibly can.
Hair -- Dalila has the most beautiful yet craziest head of hair I have ever seen. She has complicated tight curls that have many tints and intricacies to them, each strand containing its own personality. If there is one thing that people notice about her when they first meet, it’s always the hair. Many a time people have asked her if it was real or if she spent hours to look that way. I’ve never meet another person whose hair has as much personality. Her hair is what I first noticed when I met her, and to this day is still a major part of my most fond memories of her.
Family -- Dalila’s loyalty to her family almost makes me feel guilty for my loyalty to my own. There is nothing in life that she does where she doesn’t consider family first, and always looks to help them in any way she can. And her family is full of wonderful and loving people who are the kindest and most genuine people I have met in a lifetime. I would very much like to consider them part of my own family.
Temper -- Dalila has a temper a mile wide. She is so full of life, passion, and energy that if she does not have an outlet it can manifest itself in the wrong way. Much like a superhero or atomic energy, she is capable of great good, but can lead to great destruction if not treated with care. I need to be there for her when tempers flare to bring her back down from critical meltdown.
Head in the clouds, feet on the ground -- Dalila is the constant optimist. There is nothing she can’t overcome, and she wants to accomplish so much, but can get carried away on her own. I am the constant realist, calculating, analytical, and efficient. Together we balance out each others flaws and are capable of so much.
Shoulder aka pillow -- Without my shoulder to lean on, Dalila would never have a good place to rest her head on the subway. Her hair would probably get caught in gum or in the train doors and she would never get a good nap. For the sake of her health alone she needs me for emotional and upper lumbar support.
Projects -- Dalila loves undertaking new projects. From sewing to cooking to tea ceremonies to painting and so much more, she loves keeping busy and being productive. No one needs more work done to them than me. My hair is constantly a mess, I still mostly wear the same clothing I did when I was in high school (Not the same style mind you, the same actual articles of clothes), I have tons of collectables that I do nothing with, and my desk is just a mess. I need to be her project and she will always have something to do with me around.
Love letters -- When we were in College and when we first started seeing each other, Dalila used to write me love letters all the time. They were never sappy poetry or contrived, they were always from the heart, to the point, and memorable. I remember one time I bought her a journal as a gift (an actual journal, pen and paper, not a blog), and not only did she fill the entire book, front and backs of pages with entries about me and her, but she gave it to me to keep when she was done. I always loved these letters, so I though it was only fair that I wrote her one.
Her childlike enthusiasm -- I can’t really put words to this point as it’s rather hard to explain. Let’s just says that Dalila sees the world through lenses of a different color. I wish I could still see the wonderment in things that she does. She will understand what I mean if she reads this more than anyone else.
Love -- It’s totally contrived and predictable for me to say it, but it’s hard to argue with the truth. I love Dalila with everything I got. I’m certain she feels the same. Regardless of the last nine reasons, this is the only one that really counts, but I hope the other nine helped prove that I really do love her to those of you who are reading this.
I hope that you all have read my list and agree with me that Dalila should accept my proposal and marry me. But I need your help, because Dalila is not just going to listen to a few people telling her it’s the right thing to do. Please post to your Twitter, Facebook, blogs, and anything else you can with the Hash tag #SayYesD and tell your friends to do the same. Link back to this page and show people my list so they can understand how much I love Dalila. We are going to aggregate all your messages and show Dalila how many people think she should say yes.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

This is the first day of my blog as I anxiously wait for these yams to bake!

I'm sitting on the couch next to my to-be-husband (I prefer that versus the typical fancy word: fiance) as he plays Magic The Gathering on Xbox and I realize it's time to get this wedding planning officially started! Woohoo! There! I've said it! It's time for me to go into full girly, happy, giggly, "I'm going to be married" mode.

Fred says: "it's not ever time for that"
(he gets to read what i write since he's sitting right here next to me)

So, I believe I need to start with why this blog is called D says Yes! instead of "Fred & Dalila: The Wedding" or "Fred & D Wed" or "Fred & Dalila realize they will be spending a shitload of money in a single day in the near future" - the truth is because if you are reading this you probably already know how my engagement went down. But in case you don't, it was an online social media proposal and it happened through work at work. He asked me to marry him via facebook, twitter, and posted the 10 reasons why i should say yes on a female lifestyle site called She Knows- we both work in Online advertising (he's a creative guy and I'm a media planner) which explains why he decided to do it via an online campaign (we both practically live at work). Pictures of this and the actual proposal to be posted tomorrow (hopefully). So, in answer to his viral campaign "Say Yes D", I say: "D says yes!".

So there, the "yes" has been said and now it is to make this happen! Married life (officially), here we come! And my yams should be done right about... now.